I never do year end recaps. My memory is horrible and I find I get stuck going through my old posts and stuff and then, well, I lose track and forget what I was doing in the first place. So you know.. it’s kinda pointless. But I did want to say something I learned…
I learned to say no. Now I know, people talk about saying yes, and being open and blah blah blah. Well… I think at some point in life, you have to say NO. Not saying no to life… but rather, No to people and things that don’t add value to my life. Whether it be career, friendship, daily life…anything. I finally said No.
No to “opportunities” that undermined my worth. I built something here…something fun, original and mine. For awhile, I would just say yes to anything just because I wanted to please everyone. The only one I ended up displeasing was myself…my voice got lost and I missed it. So in March I made an overhaul and by June, I was more content driven and loving it. In September I wanted to give back, so I made December my month of loads of giveaways. I still said No… because I still needed to bring value to my life and value to my readers…so nothing I posted was forced.
No to being consumed by technology. I began the year by almost never leaving my laptop or phone for more then a few hours of sleep. My husband tolerated it, but was unhappy…my daughter, frustrated and when I looked up one day in March, I knew my life was flying by without me living it. So… it may have set my workload behind (especially when I started traveling a lot), but I said no. Weekends and from 4pm-9pm I gave back to my family.
No to letting people in my life that didn’t add value. Both personally and professionally. In my field, maintaining friendships with those not in the field is hard. Time is limited (as are babysitters) and the world moves fast. I used to sit and feel bad about how my friends stopped inviting me places or that I was only able to send a text or two every so often. But I don’t anymore. I know that my friends, my true friends didn’t care about that stuff. My true friends are the ones that still invite me, even if I probably say no, but they know that by inviting me it shows that they “get” me. They are the ones I can call months, years later and we can reminisce and catch up with no awkwardness. I met many people this year and formed many friendships, and many of them I know are true lifelong friends…the others, it’s ok to move on from and not dwell. I opened up to people that added to my life. By being supportive, by understanding me, by accepting me for who I am.
And while this is the year I learned to say no, 2013 is the year I am saying YES. Yes to opportunity worthy of my time and my attention. Yes to being a mom, wife, sister, aunt and friend. Yes to getting healthy. Yes to dreaming big and attaining the dreams one by one…with each one reaching just a little higher in the sky.
2012…Goodbye old friend.
2013…It’s time for the adventure to begin.