I am a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam. All opinions are my own.
Everyone has a family, and each one is unique. My family is small. There are three of us – me, my husband and my daughter. If you include our dogs and fish, we are actually a family of six.
I’m often asked why I only have one child and don’t I want my daughter to have a sibling. It always surprises me to be asked these questions. I don’t think people realized how intrusive and hurtful these comments can make others feel. My husband and I hoped our family would be larger, but life had other plans for us. I could get defensive and ask these folks if I should feel guilty for not having 10 kids? Have I done an injustice to the world or to my daughter for not having more children? But life is too short, and my family rocks too much for me to feel badly for too long when insensitive comments are tossed my way.
So back to my ‘awesome’ family. Having an ‘only child’ works for us. Actually, it’s perfect. Don’t get me wrong, every situation has it’s challenges but it works for us. My main concern is when I think about my daughter being lonely or alone when my husband and I are gone. As all parents do, I worry and want the best for my child.
Here are the top reasons that I love our only child situation. (Note: many of these reasons may also ring true for families with more than one child – just saying this is why it works for mine)
- We are very close — She doesn’t have to share us with anyone. We are always together and have a close bond.
- (NOT) Selfish — “only children are selfish”. I’ve heard this one a few times. Sorry, but I’ve met kids from large families who are selfish or don’t know how to share. Sure, there are/were times when my daughter didn’t want to share her blocks but does that make her a self-centered person? I think we all can be selfish from time-to-time. Sometimes I stand in the corner and eat my chocolate because I just.do.not.want.to.share.
- She’s not shy — She doesn’t think twice about approaching another child. I remember her third day of Kindergarten. She walked up to a couple of her new classmates who rejected her. I could see the uncertainty in her face BUT she moved on to another child who did play with her. Maybe she’s forced to be independent and seeks out opportunities because of her only-child status. I think being outwardly friendly is a great trait for life.
- Entertain themselves — My daughter has a huge imagination. You often find her talking to herself or her toys. She’s creative, tolerates boredom and realizes that sometimes Mom and Dad ARE busy. Recent research I just came across revealed that that talking to oneself can benefit thinking and perception.
- Finances — we are able to save for her future. We can eat out more often if we choose, and go on vacations. This isn’t to say families with larger families can’t save, but it’s a fact that the cost of raising a child is astronomical.
- Spontaneity — road trip! We can pick up and go. We don’t have 4 kids in tow, which makes it easier to have spontaneous road trips (and read #5).
- Little adult — She’s always around us – adults. I’ve always talked to her like a person, even from day one. Sure, I had my awww, my baby is so adorable moments but I didn’t really go down the goo-goo-ga-ga route. Which means, she has always had an extensive vocabulary and she can hold a conversation with an adult. She has always acknowledged adults and has no issues asking questions or speaking up for herself.
I’m positive that there are pros and cons for siblings just like there are for only-children. But, only children do quite well, just like everyone else does. And to prove that only children can succeed in life, here is a list of famous only children.
1. Drew Barrymore
2. Sarah Michelle Gellar
3. Charlize Theron
4. Russell Brand
5. Daniel Radcliffe
6. Idris Elba
7. Jack Nicholson
9. Al Pacino
10. Robert de Niro
11. Samuel Jackson
12. Betty White
You can watch most of these celebs on Netflix. Or check out the movies below for some fun family time. Celebrate your family and make time for each other (whether its with one child or 19.)
For Your Little Kids
For Your Big Kids
For Teens and Adults
What will you be watching with your family on Netflix?